Reasons for Couples Counselling
- Communication Issues
- Sex & Intimacy
- Partner Infidelity
- Trust Problems
- Family & Work Relationships
- Premarital Counselling
Having time to reflect on your own behaviour within a couple or family is important. To really listen is hard and to really start hearing each other is the start of an amazing onward journey together as a couple or family.
I am aware that coming to Couples or Family Counselling is a big decision for you both to make.
I am here, to support and guide you around the challenges and difficulties that you may have been facing or dealing with possibly for many months or even years.
FIRST MEETING
So what happens is that we first meet for an assessment for about fifty minutes to an hour. This is really where I am making sure that the Counselling I can offer you both is right and appropriate for you. If I feel that this is not the case we would discuss this and I would suggest other therapies or counselling that might be more useful and appropriate for you. It might be that further assessment, after our first initial meeting is needed. In this case, I would see you both individually for one session and then a further session together to decide whether Couple Counselling is a right way forward for you.
ONGOING COUNSELLING SESSIONS
At the start, it is preferable to have weekly sessions, although I am very aware of the impact on finances too. Later, we can then discuss having fortnightly sessions as this sometimes also allows more time to reflect what has been talked about.
COUNSELLING IS A JOURNEY
Once you start counselling sessions, you may find it very emotionally draining. Please know that this is normal however I feel that it is something important for you to know. I look forward to working with you both and supporting you in a safe, kind and empathetic therapeutic space. Coming to Counselling allows you a space, place and time to reflect on your life journey so far, working in the here and now but hopefully moving towards the future having had the benefit of counselling to empower you.
I look forward to working with you and supporting you in a safe, kind and empathetic therapeutic space. Please if you have any questions, contact me either at h.lamming@yahoo.co.uk or on my mobile 07491234316.
What are the common themes for people seeking Couple or Family Therapy/Counselling.
For many people, it may be that one of the couple has had an affair, a family member has acted out whether physical or emotionally connected with another person outside of the relationship dynamic.
Couples certainly lose their way over time especially if they have been busy raising a family. Children grow up, go onto further studies. University, move overseas, move out with their own partners or maybe stay home as adults. The different dynamics of blended families, foster, adopted, same sex, multi-racial, living in the same house but with different origin cultures, different religions can all have an impact on all members of the family living under the same roof. The world is a smaller place, some might say a global village and many people are living away from their original homeland, this can all impact and create challenges for many couples!
Of course family members have an impact on couples, whether we are looking after aging parents, grandparents, or extended family. Having to cope with illness, with seen or un-seen disability, the loss/death of a family member whether recently or a long time ago. Having family living overseas, in a different country, county or just down the road or even next-door can again all have their impact on a couples time together.
Work inside the home or working outside the home, career paths, whether working in the private, public, academic or volunteering world again have an impact on us all. Whether working for a corporate and the norm being a 50, 60 or 70-hour working week, commuting long distances to working shift work/unsociable hours, zero-hours contracts! Being a full-time Mum, Dad, adoptive parent, grand-parents, carers, foster carers, self-employed, signed off long term sick, not working due to not being able to work again impact us all.
There may be other reasons that find you seeking Couple or Family Therapy but again having the therapeutic space will allow and enable time in a safe space to explore this further together.
